It happened the other night. One of those nights that all was right with the world...kids were fed and happily playing, Pete and I were finishing the dishes (yes that's right I realize the beauty in Pete helping me with dishes..thanks Pete), and we started chit chatting as we worked side by side. And then it happened....
He innocently asked me, "Hey Hun, when the kids are all done with school what type of job do you think you might want to get?" I just heard some of you flinch as you read that question. Maybe not..maybe I am the only wife who reads way to much into EVERYTHING he says to me.
My first few thought were, "Does he not think what I do is work?" "Does he want me to start earning my keep?" "Does he think I should really get some work done after bummin' around for 28 years raising kids?"
I immediately began to break down just how many years it would take for me to finish this job we started and by then where would my life be?? I am hoping to be a mom for the rest of my life. I am looking forward to the grand promotion of becoming the Grammy...but I am in no rush there either.
All I could say was, "Why Pete what job DO YOU THINK I should DO??"
And this poor sweet guy who was just about to put away the last dish looked helplessly at me and tried to step carefully over the next verbal exchange, "No, I was just wondering if you ever thought about what you were going to do after the kids were out of the house and if those thoughts ever included starting a new job or something. That's all!"
p.s. I am sure we must be the only ones who have conversations that go like this...yes??
First and foremost....you are most definitely not the only people who have this conversation. I think the same battle rages in my head sometimes, but it seems more self created than created by my husband.
ReplyDeleteI never started out thinking in my head, "I just want to be a mom", I had big dreams and was on my way to becomming a physician, but after meeting my husband (he wasn't my husband at the time)my dreams changed and my life took a different and I'm convinced a better direction than being a physician.
Now I'm a doctor, an accountant, a chef, a maid, a teacher, etc....my "jobs" never stop.
I think I would have been a great doctor, but I KNOW I'm an even better mother. I'm still following my dreams, they're just new dreams that involve 5 great kiddos and 1 great husband.
There is no greater calling (job) and no greater gift from God than bringing His children into this world, loving and caring for them and I couldn't be happier about being successful in that job.